3 Things We Are Saying “I Don’t” To For Our Wedding

Ahhhhhh, I can finally say that our wedding preparations have officially started. Yes, it took us a while to get planning, but we really were in no rush to plan the big day, and with a few things already on our agenda that we had been focusing on, it’s so nice to finally say that the ball is rolling!

We are in the midst of nailing down our reception and church and those of course are the biggest to-do’s as of now, so it’s slowly but surely beginning to feel like something! With that being said, planning a wedding is a huge learning experience. I am already learning so much about my soon-to-be husband and what he truly loves and finds important as well as our our visions work together (or don’t work together sometimes).

So after some initial discussions and as we start the beginning stages of our guest list, decor and all the sweet and pretty touches, we have a few things on our list that we are already saying “I Don’t” to.

Bridal Party

I love how a big gorgeous bridal party looks and feels on the big day, but honestly, it’s just never been for me as well as Stuart. We are two people who like to keep things fairly intimate, so naturally, having just one person stand next to us on our big day is all we need.

We have decided that our family and friends will play a big role on our day as I always envisioned my nieces walking down the aisle with me a-la Kate Middleton, but we wanted to keep our wedding “look” intimate. Aside from the fact that a bigger bridal party means more $$$, but I really wanted my closest friends and family to just be there and enjoy the day. Don’t get me wrong, I want my girlfriends to be with me, taking photos with me and share in that bridesmaid-y vibe, but we wanted to keep things intimate and romantic.

Physical Invites

This was an almost immediate NO for us. As beautiful, stunning and personal invites are, they are just a money sucker, and the fact that I literally don’t know a single person who has ever kept an invite (other than a Mother or something), means that they are not as important as I used to think they were. At first, I sat on the idea of whether I wanted to go through with physical invites or not, but more and more I leaned into a simple Paperless Post invite.

After looking through the Paperless Post site, I was convinced that doing something online was way more beneficial for our wallets and frankly, more us! We can still have the same look of an invite – which is great for an aesthetically driven gal like myself) but without the postage and the worries! Now, we can have our Save the Dates, my Bridal Shower and our Wedding online so it’s easy to access for everyone!

Kids

Don’t freak out, but yes, we are saying NO to kids as much as possible for our big day. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve missed out on hearing speeches and special moments because some kids were screaming, running or causing a ruckus. And of course this doesn’t mean EVERY kid as I am from a big family and I do have young nieces and nephews, whom of course I want them there – but mostly because I can tell my own brother to tell his daughter to keep quiet, however, I didn’t want to feel guilty by asking others to do the same. It’s also a plus because that way parents can get an evening off and can really just kick back and enjoy the night!

Of course, there will be some who don’t agree, but well, that’s something I’m willing to deal with!

Are you a bride-to-be? What are you willing to give up?

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