4 Important Things to Think About Before You Get Engaged

Are you waiting for you partner to pop the question? Or, perhaps you are thinking of popping it yourself? Either way, there’s a few things you will need to think about before you get engaged. Read on to find out what they are.

Trust & Respect

Does your partner really respect you? You should think long and hard about that question before you get engaged. If there’s a hint of disrespect now, it is likely to get worse when you tie the knot. It can be hard to look at your relationship from the outside in, especially if you feel like you are in a bit of a whirlwind. But it’s important to try. You can ask your friends and family about their thoughts. If they raise any doubts about your partner’s respect for you, you have to be able to counter their arguments – not just to them, but to yourself. If you can’t do that, then it may be worth putting any plans for a wedding on hold.

Money

Make no mistake, weddings are expensive. You’ll need a good chunk of savings in the bank if you want to pay your way. You’ll also need to think about the disparities between the wealth of both sets of parents. Is it going to cause problems? One side might resent paying for everything while the other may feel ashamed because they can’t. Ultimately, this won’t affect your decision about getting married in the long-term. But, it might mean you should put off your engagement for a little while longer.

Rings

Whether you are a traditionalist or not, engagement rings should be in the forefront of your mind. You might have very different ideas about the perfect ring from your partner. But, both of your feelings should be taken into consideration. Let’s say you want a tattoo on your wedding finger – but they might want a diamond. If you are unsure, then talk about it. If you want to surprise them, however, then it might be best to avoid spending a fortune on something they might not like. Speak to their best friend, if you can trust them to keep their mouth shut!

Total Commitment

It might seem odd to talk about commitment when you are already thinking about getting engaged. If you’re willing to go that far, then surely that shows you are committed, right? Well, maybe not. Perhaps you feel like you have to marry your partner. Maybe they have put you under pressure, or perhaps you are both under pressure from overbearing parents. Yes, you might love one another deeply, but is it enough? So, although right now at this very moment you might be committed to your partner, things could change. And, unless you are also committed to the idea of marriage – and the tough times that it could bring – you should hold off for a while.

There are many more things that you need to think about before getting engaged, but we think these are four of the most important. What would make your list? Let us know and we’ll get right back to you.

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